‘Let’s talk’ with N’fa Forest Jones, from model to MC
Good Morning, Noon or Night (where ever in the world you may be)‘Let’s talk’ with N’fa Forest Jones,who some of you may remember him as the Tim Tam Genie-GOD (he’s totally going to kill me for mentioning that ha ha) and some may remember him from 1200 Technique’s .. I can go on babbling on about this wonderful human being but Ill let you check out his web site or I will be here for days typing: http://nfajones.com/
I have been lucky enough to have been rescued by N’fa at age 14 at my first ever Melbourne FashionWeek
I asked N’fa if he remembered his rescue and his words were: I am glad I stood up for you that guy was being a bit of a BLEEP…. And so a friendship blossomed
N’fa stood up for me for my first ever Melbourne Fashion Week, I was being yelled at by the choreographer and at age 14 must of looked like a deer in headlights, N’fa and friend Oliver walked passed and he put his arm around and gave a the choreographer a little talk too and has looked out for me ever since
I found a photo I took back in the day when film needed to be developed so many many moons ago, this was taken in NSW when the boys came and picked me up to go clubbing (yes fifteen years young) sorry mum
I look back being so young and I knew age twelve that I wanted to do modelling and walk the white mile (catwalk)
Great friendships that go on forever
I can still smell the hairspray that was sprayed around back-stage and the last minute touch up’s by frantic makeup artists who probably were as nervous as me as I stood behind Claudia Schiffer to open my first ever catwalk!
The crowd goes silent; and ‘cheque music” … Big Breath….. Go!
Great memories to have
N’fa has actually been at the peak of some of my embarrassing moments to look out for me, and which some I wont share ha ha – but when I told my mum I was doing a blog that featured him she laughed and said: I remember when I first met him at the bus stop and i was going to take you somewhere and he was there and put his arm around you and said “I’ll look out for her” and to this day she is his biggest fan ha ha
When I approached N’fa about what his thoughts were on pressure in the industry and being bullied, he was more then happy to help
I asked N’fa if he has been bullied himself and what his thoughts were, this is what he had to say:
Everybody i know in the entire world has been bullied at some point.. some worse that others.. shit, I’ve probably bullied, just being a idiot kid… but nothing too terrible.. I have definitely been bullied, but at an early age around 5 or 6, I decided that what others thought of me meant very little.. the only way I wanted people see me was as a good person, a kind person. People were rude, racist, selfish, bitchy and I just figured there was something wrong with them, and I moved on.
I would feel disappointed when I came across it all, but I never took it on board.. I don’t personally understand why you would.. but I really feel for them
True friends would slowly emerge out of it, and I was happy alone, happy writing, happy training and running (for the readers out there playing at home this is just a little trivia) N’fa ran 4th in the trials for National championships
I got injured a couple seasons later, and that’s when ‘1200 Technique’s blew up.. And didn’t they ever?
I will teach my kids the same.. there are people with all their inner doubts and fears that they’ll push on you because they feel intimidated, and themselves are self conscious and therefor will assume, you are as powerful as you look to them without them even trying to know you(they’re idiots), and then there’s good balanced people who will treat you well.. they may not wanna hang with you, may not find you funny – and that’s okay at least they won’t be idiots about it. Same goes for people who wanna hang with you because they think you’re cool, and that is a representation of themselves via association.. I teach my kids to be still, be with self, breathe, worry not of others slanders, but consider any constructive criticism even if it hurts your ego, and don’t be an idiot yourself.. That’s how I do it..
What about when being picked on becomes violent?
The only time I’ll teach them to react directly to bullying, is when they see someone who can’t handle some other pricks abusive words, and need someone to step in for them, or when bullying is physical. I’ll teach them to strike in defence with all they have. Words mean nothing unless you take them on board, but physical, is physical contact.
No matter how one feels, should they be fearful , unsure, sensitive, one must look confident within
I personally would look confident within, calm, pleasant, and not give a damn about what anyone says (but without being obnoxious about it) that’s my “look” maintaining that face You learn a lot about oneself and others
I’d like to thank N’fa for the chat
You can follow N’fa on twitter: https://twitter.com/NfaJones